Men Would Like to Know: So... can I kick it with her?

So two weeks ago, I asked the ladies if they had questions for the guys and I did a trial run of the "Women Would Like to Know" series. Needless to say, the "How many is TOO MANY" question sparked a lot of debate. It seemed as if most women weren't too enthused about being judged by "just a number." Even the guys couldn't agree on whether or not the number was even important. But based on the results of the poll it seems as if the "target" number is somewhere between 6 and 10. So there you have it ladies - 8 is the magic number you should lie with when your man asks the question.

On to the 5th episode of the "Men Would Like to Know" series...

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So fellas, you and your shorty have been together for a while now. It's not like you're gonna be getting married tomorrow, but the relationship is definitely solid. Let's say you guys are somewhere around the first anniversary. You two are all wifed up and caking constantly. So much so that your girl's girlfriends are sick and tired of hearing about how "great" you are. You play those stupid "no YOU hang up first!" games until someone's cellphone dies. The two of you have baked so many cakes that Duncan Hines had to file for Chapter 11 bankruptcy. In fact, your level of cakemums is so high that even my manz Brandan is astounded and impressed. Yeah okay, you're right... That's not even possible... B-Rich is like a caking pioneer. But you get my point...

Biz Markie had the hit single "Just a Friend"

So one day an old female friend from high school or college hits you up cuz she's in town and wants to know if you want to meet up (go to lunch or whatever). So now you have a bit of a dilemma. You and this female friend were cool and you wouldn't mind seeing her, but your girl, being human (and female), might get a lil' insecure or jealous. So you've got two options:

Option #1: Be upfront and tell her
This probably is our best option because what is a relationship without honesty right? But we might not get that honesty in return. She doesn't want to seem unreasonable or jealous, so she'll say she's cool with it, but then say something like "well if that's what you wanna do, then I'm not gonna stop you." Great. Guilt trip.

Or she'll hit you with the complete facade and seem perfectly fine with it, but will be worrying the whole time you're with the friend. She'll be calling you randomly because she can't find her favorite nail file or something. The situation may seem cool then, but all that worrying may come back to bite you.

Option #2: Don't tell her (a.k.a. "Ignorance is bliss")
This plan ideally would be okay if she never found out. But women have that sixth sense about these things and chances are high that she'll find out one way or another. Or you'll just slip up. And when she does find out, you're basically screwed because you look super guilty. "If nothing was going on, then why didn't you just tell me?" And then she'll front like "if you would've told me beforehand, I would have been perfectly fine with it." Suuuuuuuure.

So ladies, here's the question for you. If your man wanted to kick it 1-on-1 with an old female friend, would you be cool with it? Would you even let him go?? Does her attractiveness play a factor into your decision? Shoot, would you even leave your man alone with one of your girlfriends? If your answer is "yes" (liar!), do things change if she's an ex or a chick he hooked up with in the past? Men would like to know...

As always, feel free to leave your comments as well as answer the poll on the left-hand side of the blog.