Women Would Like to Know: How many is TOO MANY?

Last week in the 4th episode of the "Men Would Like to Know" series, I asked the ladies if they would like to switch it up and ask the fellas a question. Turns out that the ladies have numerous questions for the guys and I got a couple of intriguing questions to ask, so we'll see how it goes.

But before we get into that, fellas, if you were looking for an appropriate response to "baby, does this make me look fat" from wifey, then you should do what my boy Tijani said he'd would do. He'd say, "Honey, I really don't like the buttons on that blouse and the collar is not working for me either. Maybe you should try on another ensemble?" Basically you want to comment on the dress and not on her or her body. Good to know.

On to today's question...

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So fellas, you've been kickin' it with this one honey dip (I'm tryna bring that phrase back) for a while and you're definitely feeling her. But she isn't wifey just yet, so when your boys ask you how you feel about her, you put up a front saying "I mean, she's cool peoples ya dig." You're definitely considering lockin' her up, but you don't know about her past yet, and any smart man would need to know that before trying to wife. It's like getting a Vehicle History Report before buying a used car. Wow, that analogy is kinda offensive. Anyways, you guys need to have "the talk."

Actually this is one of the many "talks" that go on during the course of a relationship, but this could possibly be the most pivotal. You need to find out just how many dudes she's been with prior to you because if it's too high, you would just peace out before things got too deep or serious. I know for some guys, if the number is too low they might peace out as well.

The funny thing is that "too many" for a girl is probably not the same number as "too many" for a guy. You could be a guy who has slept with 20 girls, but if you came across a girl who's been with 15 guys, that would be "too many" for you. The guy who's been with hella girls is a casanova, player or a mac daddy. On the other hand, a girl who has slept with many guys is a ho, slut or a floosy.

There have always been double standards between men and women, but this one has to be one of the weirdest ones because a guy has to sleep with a girl in order to get that notch on his belt. So unless the guys are doing something nasty like sharing the same handful of women... or are doing something far nastier between themselves... you would think the numbers would be closer together. But they're not.

Unfortunately in this day, many more people are wilin' out, especially in college (i.e. facebook sex addict). And if The Real World is any indication of the casualness in which sex is treated, then it's highly likely that your partner is going to have had quite a few partners in the past. And it's likely that that number will grow as we get older. For the guys at least, the girl's number can be very sensitive.

So fellas, how sensitive is that number? How many is too many? Is there such a thing as too few? Women would like to know...

As always, feel free to leave your comments as well as fill out the poll on the right-hand side of the blog. And if anyone has any questions they'd like me to ask in future episodes of either series, hit me up at ben@benmvp.com.

Update: Check out the imported facebook note version of this blog entry for more comments on the issue.